[quote=barend,Jun 20 2004, 07:56 AM] the whole institute seems do be based on taxing the hell out of me...
here's what i have to do in so-called ideal fairytale existence...
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I can see your worries Barend, but it does not always turn out like that. Allow me to elaborate:
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I have to build up the courage to ask the girl out.
That was never really a worry for me, but I've never been self-conscious about asking out girls.
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I have to pay for her meal
More often than not we took it in turns to pay for meals. If one of us was short cash then the other would pay. I'd take her out on special occasions and she's do the same for me.
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I have to buy her flowers
I never did this on the "special" occasions. I always bought flowers when I felt like it on random days. It seemed to get a better reaction.
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I will have to resolve every argument without being told what the problem is or being alowed to ask what the problem is...*
I'll leave this one out due to the tongue in cheek nature.
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I have to spend at least 4 months wages on an engagement ring
I'll agree, this can be a tough one and personally I'm still paying for it. But it comes down to the girl. I know quite a few that don't have to have the biggest and brightest ring. Some do! Mine did and at the time I wanted to give it to her also.
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I have to risk humiliation by asking her to marry me
Again, no problem here. We had both talked about it and I knew that she wanted to get married. It's one of those things that if you don't know the answer before you ask the question then you have not done the necessary spade work you should have done.
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I have to buy a home for us
This was something that both of us were goig to be doing. It was alweays going to be a join purchase.
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I will probably have to pay for the wedding
Our parents split the cost of the reception and we split the cost of the rest of the wedding/honeymoon. Traditionally it is still the brides parents that are supposed to pay for the wedding so if you were really desperate you could play that card if you wanted B.
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I will have to spend god knows how much on a wedding ring
These are not that expensive. It's the engagement ring that racks up the credit card. And she usually pays for your wedding ring.
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I will pay for most things, untill she inevitably decides shes more attracted to some guy she met at a nightclub, or a friend of mine, or some guy she previously wanted to go out with but just became available.
It didn't happen that way for me. We split costs of things and she didn't run off with anyone else. We just discovered that we were heading in different directions.
I will have my heart torn out
If you go through divorce then yes you most likely will. Can't help that unfortunately.
I will have the pleasure of financing her new relationship for the rest of my life while i live on 20-30% of my pay.
Again, didn't work out that way for me, but we had an amicable break up. We basically divided up everything we owned and worked out who needed what and who had the greater claim to certain things such as wedding albumns etc. Tough job, but we were both adult about it so now neither of us pays for the other.
I will have to get over my newly developed but justified 'trust issues, and ask out another girl just get screwed over again.
I'll keep you posted on this if you like, but it seems to be working fine for me at the moment? I'm dating a gorgeous girl who clearly loves me very much. She has met my ex and they seem to get on well enough. I've also met my ex's new partner and he seems quite cool.
Well that's all I can give you I suppose. It's just a single case, but it's not all bad and given the right girl, I'd do it again.
This post has been edited by Supes: 20 June 2004 - 10:47 PM