If thats what he meant, that seems really naive.
So having confidence in oneself is considered naive? While there may be people out there who are either too shy, or too insecure of themselves, there is always someone for those people. I know there is because I used to be shy. I used to be insecure. I'm still ugly as hell, and I don't have money, but I have had a very long-lasting relationship with my girlfriend. How is it possible for a guy like me to meet my soul mate? I gave up on the whole "bar scene". I didn't think I was meant to be with anyone.
I've heard the excuses:
"I'm drying my hair, so I won't be able to go out." Right. How long could that possibly take?
"I can't go out with you, I've got homework to do." On a Friday night?
"I don't have a boyfriend, but I'm kinda seeing this guy." Ok, but a simple 'no' would have sufficed.
"Ok, meet me after work at my job." Acceptable... if she's actually going to be there. This one would have been cool, meeting her halfway and all... but it made me feel like she thought I was a creepy stalker, or something. Not cool. I ended up calling her at work before I even thought about driving out there. She didn't work that night. Reeeeeeaaaally not cool. Needless to say, I got the hint. I didn't even talk to her after that.
"Ok, but is it cool for my friends to come along?" Yes. "Oh, nevermind... they want to go shoot pool, or something." Um... ok. "Well, I gotta go. My friends are waiting for me." Uh... ok... "Click." ...uh... nice talking to you, too.
"Sure." What kind of answer is that? Would you like to go to a movie with me? It's a yes/no question. Sure, you'd like to, or sure, whatever? I've been stood up so many times after getting this reply.
"Well, I would, but I'm still getting over my last boyfriend/relationship/fiasco." What does that have to do with anything? What better way to get over your last relationship, than to go out and have fun with somebody besides your ex? This is a bullshit excuse.
"I've always thought of you as a friend." I've always thought of you as a catalyst for depression. While you're at it, why don't you just give me a nice paper cut on my tongue and pour lemon juice over it... seriously... how many times does someone have to hear this one before it's classified as antique? I didn't ask you to marry me. I didn't ask you to sacrifice a small goat to appease the gods. I didn't ask you to make any life altering decisions. I simply asked if you "would like to... get some coffee/go to a movie/go to dinner/go bowling, etc". Again, a simple "no" would have been enough, but, noooooo... you have to drag me through a minefield of lies and deception. Spank you, happy helperton.
"I don't think we have anything in common." I don't think your brain has anything in common with other people's brains... that didn't stop me from asking you out on a date. You don't know me, so how can you say we have nothing in common? What do you base this on? Opposites attract. I can attest to that.
"You're not my type." You're absolutely right. I'm not shallow, or superficial. You are. Forget I ever asked.
"Dream on." I will... and when I do, I'll dream of someone a little less self-absorbed.
I've heard each of these excuses countless times. When you're used to rejection, it is harmful to your self esteem. It makes a courageous person shy, and insecure. You would think I would have given up, after hearing these excuses for my entire life. When you finally realize that these excuses are all as ridiculous as they really are, it's time to move on. If you fall off the horse, you dust yourself off, and get right back on. If you're too shy, or insecure to try, you'll never accomplish anything. You can't say there isn't someone for everyone, unless you don't believe in yourself. If that's the case, then you're missing out on life.
The whole man/woman ratio is irrelevant. Homosexuality counterbalances this ratio. For every person that is gay/lesbian, there is someone out there for you as well. Just because you choose to be attracted to the same gender, it has no bearing on my original statement. Yes, COBNAT, ugly and dumb people should mate. They have been for a few millenias now. They still are.
If you don't believe there is someone for everyone, it makes me assume that you have either given up, or you just haven't found that someone yet. I'm not just talking about soulmates. I have two friends that were virgins until they were well in their twenty's. They are both, in my opinion, unattractive. Both of them are obese, balding, and have a knack for getting rejected by women. The younger of the two has only asked two or three women out in his ENTIRE life. Two of those women were admittedly lesbian. The third woman is now his wife. They have two children together. The older friend was presumably homosexual. He never had anything to do with women. He thought he was above dating. I always thought he was just gay. He never asked any women out on a date. After being ridiculed by his own roommate, he started chatting with women online. He found a woman that lived nearby. They started dating, and to make a long story short, they are now married, also with two kids. These are not coincidental circumstances. They happened for a reason. I have many friends, male and female, who I find to be very attractive people. The majority of them aren't even dating.
It's time to come to a realization here, people. If you're single, I don't give a damn how ugly, or poor, or stupid you are, there is someone out there for you, whether it's a man, or a woman. Only if it's just for one night. If you truly believe the exact opposite, that is why you have failed. If you haven't found someone to be with, you have nobody to blame, but yourself. Unless you're content with being a bitter, old hermit, you need to get off your ass and find some woman, or some man that you can connect with, even if just for a moment. That's all life is: a series of moments. Go seize your moment. If you just can't find an attractive enough person to be with, you are shallow. I'm not talking about lowering your standards. You are blinded from the truth. The only reason 'standards' exist is because of superficial b.s. we see on television. As a society, we are brainwashed to believe that beautiful women are the ones we see on film, or in Playboy. While I'm not denying their outer beauty, a great many of them are very superficial. To me, that makes them ugly.
Jejef Thgaron 
I'm going to have to disagree with you, cobnat, but since I'm a mod, I have infinite HP and bullet time, and nobody could make me literally eat lead either.
You know you have someone special when you can blatently hit on him/her using pirate, computer, or butterfly innuendo and he/she reacts positively. I admit that I lacked the confidence to try the whole dating thing because I was chased away from it at a young age, and then, in looking at it from the outside, realized how fucking stupid it all is. Then my girlfriend stumbled upon me and I discovered that she hated the game too, and we were both like "You're awesome!" and have been happily together ever since.
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