[civilian_number_two]

Speaking from experience, meaningless sex is just that, meaningless sex.

Well. speaking from experience, meaningless sex may be meaningless, but it ain't half bad. And it's not like "meaningless" is really a pejorative: it's like "meningless slaughter;" goodness, you wouldn't say that the slaughter was inconsequential or less slaughter-ish just because it was meaningless, now, would you?

Not that I know of this ever happening, but couldn't it be that if you place too much emotional importance on the sex, and pile too much of the relationship onto it, couldn't it turn out to be over-important, instead of the fun recreational sometimes-babymaking lark it's meant to be?

I'd rather love were more about common interests and mutual respect, and sex were more about fucking. That's always worked for me.

[Spoon Poetic]

You're right about not placing too much importance onto sex - that's no good. Sex is fun! It should always be fun, whether you're in love or not. But I enjoy it more when there's an emotional connection as well as the physical. I just do. I didn't think I would, either; until I experienced it.'

Oh, and I've learned from experience - what you think to be a no-strings-attached one-night stand/fuckbuddy can lead to some serious repercussions, even if you're SURE nothing bad can come from it (and I'm not even referring to unexpected pregnancy, STDs, or your parents catching you in the act).

This post has been edited by Spoon Poetic: 17 January 2006 - 05:07 PM

[Jordan]

What are you refering to then?

[Spoon Poetic]

Emotional damage.

[Jordan]

You can get that from marriage and dating. I'd say more so through relationships. People who team up for one night stands usually do so on a 'no-strings attached' premise.

[Spoon Poetic]

Yes - but when you go into a relationship, you know you're taking that risk for emotional damage, and it rarely has anything to do with sex (which is the topic of current debate). And while you initially set up the "no-strings attached" premise with one-night stands and fuck buddies, it can go very sour...

[Jordan]

I don't think any one goes into a relationship preparing themselves for emotional damage. I think if it happens, it's damaging all the same. It's like having kids, they may die and that may ruin your life. You can agree it may happen but it wouldn't really prevent any future damage to your nervous system.

People who commit to one night stands usually don't end up like fatal attraction. I'd say it rarely happens. And if some one does have sex with a random, and then starts having feelings for the person and thus feeling abondoned when they drop them, then that person is screwed in the head.

This post has been edited by Jordan: 18 January 2006 - 01:24 AM

[Cobnat]

What is your opinion of people who declare that they won`t have sex until they are married?

They are ok... at least the wont catch Aids any time soon.

[Despondent]

Leno was talking about sex the other night, comparing it to pizza.

Even when pizza is bad, it's STILL pizza.

[Spoon Poetic]

I never understood that analogy. If the pizza is bad, I won't eat it. I guess it's a guy thing - they do tend to eat anything.

[barend]

'meaningless sex'? why does this term ever sire debate or backlash...

the term is as contriversial as 'meaningless belgian white chocolate ice cream'...

maybe you're hearts not in it... but neither your body or the belgian dairy chefs are complaining...

This post has been edited by barend: 31 January 2006 - 12:15 AM

[Sailor Abbey]

instead of the fun recreational sometimes-babymaking lark it's meant to be?

I'd rather love were more about common interests and mutual respect, and sex were more about fucking. That's always worked for me.

I think nature intended humans to have sex with multiple people (not always at the same time), whenever they feel like it - with no strings attatched. I think that when the body says it needs something, you should always give. No sense in attatching anything else to it.

[barend]

I think that when the body says it needs something, you should always give.

and i beleive that's why i'm fat.

(which has gotten in the way of simply just 'giving in' to the desire to have sex)

the body want's a lot of things, if you give in to it... you're just an animal. It's when the body wants to get rid of something that you should listen..

[Slade]

I find it very satisfying to have a steady romantic companion to rely on and be relied on by. And it's just not very safe to prostrate yourself with everyone either, what with no birth control (if we're still arguing a nature intent thing the point of lots of sex with many people is to populate the earth with more people - great if you're an animal, but if you're a sentient with an overpopulation problem already, it's not so great, as you're just going to get culled due to food/habitat shortages) and then the plethora of STDs...

And then there's the problem of free will in regards to that... If we can say no to one another, then it's not necessarily nature's intent to have us all have sex all the time...

[Sailor Abbey]

and i beleive that's why i'm fat.

(which has gotten in the way of simply just 'giving in' to the desire to have sex)

the body want's a lot of things, if you give in to it... you're just an animal. It's when the body wants to get rid of something that you should listen..

Yes but does your body really 'need' that stuff or do you just want it cause you like it. I think there might be a difference. I can usually tell what my body is lacking nutritionally in this way.

I'm not talking about just wanting to have sex cause it sounds fun. I'm talking more along the lines of that insane feeling of lust. I have personally found that supressing this feeling can lead to problems. Besides, I belive such feelings are a gift from the divine, and should not be discarded lightly.

And as far as being animals... we are. We might be able to solve complex mathematical equations, but we still have basic primal needs.