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Posted 22 December 2007 - 07:16 PM

Okay:

"In the Lao language, the country's name is "Muang Lao". The Imperial French, who made the country part of French Indochina in 1893, spelled it with a final silent "s", i.e. "Laos" (The Lao language itself has no final 's' sound, so Lao people do not pronounce the word Laos). The usual adjectival form is "Lao", e.g. "the Lao economy", not the "Laotian" economy--although "Laotian" is used to describe the people of Laos to avoid confusion with the Lao ethnic group."

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Posted 28 December 2007 - 11:20 PM

Ok, so as many of you may have read about my misfortunes with Kim, she is history..that story is closed.

Im happy to report that I have met a new lady, her name is Thi, and she is extremely beautiful. I met her a few days after the incident with Kim.

me and Thi have been talking on the phone and texting for about a week, we decided to set tonight as our first date. im happy to report everything went so good, it could have been much better,.but im not complaining either.

so early this morning, i got off work at 6am from my job, drove home and went to bed,..woke up around 2pm, showered and talked to Thi,.she worked a small shift at her job and got off work around noontime. she also told me she just got out of the shower..hee hee.

she obvioulsy trusts me a lot, because she gave me the address to her house..even before i ever saw her in person, later that night she told me i was lucky to know where she lives at,.because only like 3 other friends even know that info..so i feel very special to know she trusts me like that.

but before this date transpired tonight..during the week that we talked, she told me stories about how her ex bf was such a prick..when they got into arguments...he would yell and scream, and she wouldnt...and when things got heated,.she would say "i have to leave now",..and drive off to some store or wherever to blow off steam..she also said she frequent the batting cages to hit something...to relieve her tension.

i told her that she is a very beautiful lady, and i was sorry to hear that she had dated guys who wasnt appreciative of her beauty. i told her that if i was hers, i would never-ever yell at her, or verbally abuse her in anyway.

the thing is..quite honestly..i dont think i have ever dated a girl as beautiful as Thi. to give you a visual, she is 5'4'', about 110 lbs, shoulder length hair with highlights, nice small, yet full lips, a beautiful face and adorable eyes. she is an angel

so, my heart simply fell to her like melted butter when she told me the pains she endured..cause im like, damn..if i ever dated a girl like her, i would never be mean to her..never.

it sucks for me, cause i dont drive a luxury car, wear really expensive clothes, or make a ton of cash, but i know i would do everything i could to treat a lady right.

so, back to the date. she actually called me and told me she was getting ready and i really wasnt ready as soon as i expected her to be...so im kinding rushing around with an hour to deadline..i managed to wash my car,..vacuum the interior, and pick up a 1/2 dozen red roses.

she gave me her address to her apartment, i mapquested it, and drove there in no time. i was in fear that she might have saw me outside from her apartment window,.seeing me carrying the roses in hand..but in reality, she was shocked,.because somehow i managed to drive right into her gated complex...usually the gates are closed.

so i knock on the door and hide the flowers..she answers the door, and her eyebrows lift up high, because she was expecting me to call at the gate needing in..but that didnt happen...she was even more surprised to see the flowers.

we soon left, b/c she was hungry. she suggested a steakhouse, which is notoriously known to be rather high priced..i dont believe in taking a girl out to the absolute best place on a first date..so i downplay her suggestion by saying that i got sick last time i went there..and she chose a different steakhouse. which made a difference of about $100 on the dinner tab. not that im a cheapskate, its just my income is somewhat limited. if i made more money, id spend more.

Thi told me she had a bad year this year, she broke up with her ex, who was living with her, and when he left, he even took things they bought together. namely the plasma tv in the living room, along with other various things. thi said she never had a happy birthday, and she hates valentines day.

i told her that i will do everything i can to make 2008 great for her.

this girl is a gem, and i realize that if we got married, she would be the obvious breadwinner..she will have her masters in optometry in may. not that im looking for a sugar momma, cause im not, but on the same token, i hope the large differences in our income doesnt cause a bad thing to happen. im still sorting my thoughts out on that one.

before we even got to the steakhouse, thi tells me she is feeling sluggish because of the prescribed meds she took..which reduce her anxiety. the meds reduce anxiety, but cause a side effect of drowsiness as well. she told me she didnt feel like going out, but she had a talk with herself and convinced herself that she wanted to go on this date, just to meet me.

we get to the restaurant, i have mesquite grilled steak, she gets the ribeye (there were more expensive menu options, but she didnt take me to the cleaners..and yes, ive had that happen a time or two as well)

its like, guys like me, who dont have silver spoons in their mouth want to treat ladies good,.we want to impress..but it sometimes seems like a constant juggle with the finances and trying to impress the lady. we want to do well, but we dont want to seem cheap either. i dont know.

so, we had a great meal, and talked about many a thing. she asked what i wanted to do afterwards..i suggested a movie..she said she wasnt feeling up to it, and apologized that she wasnt feeling well..in fact, she was feeling so bad, she went to the ladies room and threw up what she ate.

she then wanted to go to starbucks..saying that some coffee would make her feel better, so we head to starbucks, and sit down and chat for about 40 minutes. she continues to tell me about how her ex mistreated her. (girls always love to talk about the guy that came before us..why is that ladies?..not that im complaining, because i ask a ton of questions to make sure i dont make the same mistake)

which im doubtful i will make any of this guy's mistakes...he was downright rude to her..he didnt deserve her.

we are sitting side by side at a table inside of starbucks, i remind myself that this is just the first date...but the more she tells me stories about how she was done wrong, the more my hormones scream that i want to love her down so softly...i control myself, which seemed difficult because she was looking very good tonight. so what can i do to show her i care for her? i reach over and gently touch her hand and tell her how soft her skin is, theni began to caress her palm and fingers in my hand. her hand is so small compared to mine,..this girl has babygirl hands..and im in love

she tells me no man has ever caressed her palm before, after about 5 minutes of caressing her palm, she asks me if my hands are normally hot like that...whoa!, im kinda embaressed and blushing a tad...does it seem that obvious that i have the total hots for her? oh man, i hope i didnt screw up

after starbucks she wants to go home, so i take her home. i get in front of her apartment, and tell her i will walk her up to her front door. she says she will be ok, but i insist. i can tell she must feel somewhat scared right now,..it was this vibe i got. but there was something i wanted to tell her. so i walk her up to her apartment steps outside the front door. she knows where im going with this, as we reach the top of the flight of steps, and she turns around and looks at me. i place my arms around her and hug her, with me still hugging her, i tell how beautiful she is and how much i would love another date,..she says "for sure" to the next date..which is set for next friday...yippeee.

i continue holding her as we are standing, i gently pat her hair back and kiss her on the neck, cheeks, and forehead, and she soon greets me with her lips..which i wasnt at all expecting. the kisses were short..nothing long..but she told me she didnt want to get me sick either. (remember the incident at the steakhouse)

as she opens the door, she thanks me again for the roses, as they seemed to greet her right as the door opened. i said sweet dreams and walked back towards my car. as i sat down in my car, i texted her saying she was beautiful, and that i wanted to make her feel special all the time..she didnt text me back as of yet, but maybe its cause she went right to bed.

i wanted sooo much to spend more time with her tonight...but im happy that a second date is in the works.

why did i type so much about this..cause i really want to know whatever one else thinks...

...i especially want a date report card from the lady chefelfers out there...ladies how did i do??

This post has been edited by optimus_prime: 28 December 2007 - 11:22 PM

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Posted 29 December 2007 - 12:25 AM

sounds like you're smitten. just be sure not to be too overbearing. otherwise enjoy the ride and keep an even keel.

And don't worry about how much money you have or make. If a girl truly cares she won't mind. Don't lie to her about it though. That's a horrible mistake. I'm a big believer in honesty.

Good luck.
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Posted 29 December 2007 - 07:31 AM

This gal sounds like a nightmare. Frequent complaints on a first date about her ex (you're not to speak of past relationships until at least a month); threw up her food; whined about not having good brithdays and Valentines in the past (a gift-seeker); and she's on pills for anxiety.

I don't care how good she looks. If you carry on with this you'll be posting here before long with news about what a nutbag she is. Your best bet is to sleep with her as soon as you can and then run the hell away.

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Posted 29 December 2007 - 08:43 AM

Aye, what the good, if somewhat cynical Civilian said.
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Posted 29 December 2007 - 10:09 AM

Even if it crashes and burns, she sounds better than the last girl.
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Posted 29 December 2007 - 11:52 AM

QUOTE (civilian_number_two @ Dec 29 2007, 06:31 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This gal sounds like a nightmare. Frequent complaints on a first date about her ex (you're not to speak of past relationships until at least a month); threw up her food; whined about not having good brithdays and Valentines in the past (a gift-seeker); and she's on pills for anxiety.

I don't care how good she looks. If you carry on with this you'll be posting here before long with news about what a nutbag she is. Your best bet is to sleep with her as soon as you can and then run the hell away.

yeah, in the back of my mind, i kept thinking that she was putting on this show about her meds..just so she could have an excuse to keep the date short. i found it odd that when i asked her where she wanted to eat at, the first place she suggests was one of the most expensive steak houses in town.

sorry, but i dont give out the high priced treatment until much much later in the relationship.

all in all, the date last night was under 3 hours: roses $37.00, steakhouse tab $37.00, starbucks $6.00. i hate to keep tabs like that, but just to give you all an idea. honestly, i usually dont give out roses on a first date either, only to a girl i really, really like.

im kinda clueless as to what to do on our next date this upcoming friday, but i am going to try to leverage more control in my favor. im going to choose where we eat at, since she chose the last time. im going to try to spend much more time with her, and if she attempts to give another reason, like her meds,.or lack of sleep, as to keep the date short, i will seriously implore her well-being (not in a hateful tone though..but in a rather concerned tone)

what civilian said is kinda crossing my mind, if what some of the posters on here is suggesting is true. on the whole date, i was playing this nice sort of sweet innocent character which really isnt a true representation of me (think of christopher reeve's character as clark kent in superman--yeah, that nice). not that im a bad guy or anything, but i probably gave off the impression to her that im somewhat gullible and would buy her anything.

but the reverse could be true. maybe she really is taking medication, and maybe she really did get sick (although i didnt notice any particular odor about her..unless she keeps a stockful of necessary supplies in her purse to freshen her breath). she is a very social type, and took about 3 phone calls during this 3 hour date. most girls like her, the pretty type, tend to be very social.

so yeah, for this friday, im gonna make sure we spend more time together, im making the restaurant choice,.and i will make an earnest attempt at really getting to kiss her, and ensure we spend much much more time together.

ill keep you guys posted
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Posted 30 December 2007 - 11:13 AM

Hmm.

Not quite certain what precisely to make of this most recent report. Truth be told I haven't that much experience with dating (most of my empathy comes from other sources; mostly friends and relatives). However there are a few things I can and will say.

civilian_number_two is correct; although I would not suggest something nearly as drastic. It could simply be that this new ladyfriend is simply looking for someone who will treat her well and pay attention to her. That's perfectly understandable and personally I would expect it from anyone. On the flip side however she may not be wanting attention rather than wanting it lavished upon her, along with gifts and constant adoration and praise; which seems a small price to pay at first but quickly adds up (and I speak from personal experience, having nearly made this mistake myself).

I'm one of the lucky ones. I can sympathize with you quite a bit, seeing as we share the same views; I definitely do not nor have ever had that elusive silver spoon poking out from between my lips but I still do my best to treat my beloved to everything I can. I am lucky however in that she loves me for who I am and not for what I can give her. My point is that if I of all people can find someone like that, it should be easy for you and with any luck that someone is the very one you're holding so close right now.

One thing I would have suggested earlier had I known, was to keep away any show of wealth. I admire the strong romantic streak that motivated you to buy those roses, but roses on the first date are more than an indication of interest. In some cases it paints a pretty picture of a pink neon sign above your head that flashes SUCKER above your head with a little arrow pointing down. If you have a beautiful gift for someone you've never met that's nice, but you should be careful not to portray yourself as a patsy.

Example being, my first date with my ladyfriend. Me being broke and therefore having nothing but my charm and good nature at my disposal decided that since such things as an expensive dinner or a day at the cinema were out of the question, I instead opted to take her out for the day to the beach and foreshore near my home. I made a small picnic lunch for us and took it with, and we sat at a concrete park table near the cliff overlooking the bay and the harbour. It sounds sparse and unromantic but believe me when I say that was one of the most magical evenings we've spent together. We watched the sun set over the ocean from the comfort of each other's arms; and I honestly do not think that for a first date something could have gone better. If given the chance to change anything about that first date, I would not change a damned thing.

It sounds to me as if perhaps you're a little anxious about how she will think of and react to you. I've also noticed that your emotions are quick to jump in, as they were with the original post of this thread. My advice to you therefore is this: Take the time to slow down and smell the roses. Go and watch something that truly horrifies you, so that when you think of Thi you can do so without the rose-coloured glasses clouding your vision. And take the time to think, from the most impartial view you can, what you think. Not what your heart or your hips want, but what your brain can discern from all of this. It can see things your heart cannot or will not. Look at things carefully and weigh everything up before you go diving in. It could make all the difference between the most wonderful love of your life or another night on the tiles, believe me.

Good luck, and I'll keep my fingers crossed.
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Posted 30 December 2007 - 11:53 AM

I think I'll stay out of this conversation, as I have acquired a somewhat unsavory reputation ever since I made a girl cry just by giving her the evil eye.
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Posted 30 December 2007 - 01:38 PM

QUOTE (Cyzyk @ Dec 30 2007, 10:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think I'll stay out of this conversation, as I have acquired a somewhat unsavory reputation ever since I made a girl cry just by giving her the evil eye.


whoa?!..you made a girl cry just by looking at her? care to share that tale?

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Posted 30 December 2007 - 01:43 PM

QUOTE (Legion @ Dec 30 2007, 10:13 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
On the flip side however she may not be wanting attention rather than wanting it lavished upon her, along with gifts and constant adoration and praise; which seems a small price to pay at first but quickly adds up


youre saying she may be a golddigger incognito?

Peter Brady was by far the ugliest Brady kid on the "Brady Bunch". I mean, they were all pretty ugly, and the fact that the Brady dad wanted to always take the boys out on overnight camping trips just a tad bit too often, gave me the creeps.
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Posted 30 December 2007 - 03:39 PM

All right, sucker for a punishing second date, some questions:

What does she like to do in her spare time? What does she do for a living? Does she have any problems at work, or a funny story to tell about it? What are her family like? Does she have a favorite movie? What was the last place she traveled to? Etc. You get my meaning, right? You spent three hours with her, so what did you learn? I ask because the report so far sounds like you heard lots about her ex (still hung up on the ex), and she was whiny and a pain in the ass for the rest (expensive tastes, none of the socially-expected "you shouldn't have" to the flowers, meds and puking, yuck).

You mention that maybe the medication thing was faked; I hadn't even considered that. If you think that's possible then don't just run, run screaming. A gal who would lie about having to take anxiety medication just to cut a date short is the sort who could do anything. My initial advice about avoiding a woman on medication is just that. Of course, lots of people take pills for problems they have, but generally it takes a while for you to learn all that about someone. Getting to know that as well as all the ex info screams of attention-seeker. I quote Fight Club: Strangers with this kind of honesty make me go a big rubbery one.

Then again, if you don't get a lot of dating opportunities, and you really want to have sex with this woman, go for it. Just be careful to mix your own drinks and hide the knives before bed. And avoid any "fun" games that begin with her tying you up.

PS: $37 for steak for two? Where did you end up taking her, Denny's? I'm meeting her halfway on the puking here; sounds like a case of e-coli.

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Posted 30 December 2007 - 06:56 PM

QUOTE (princesskadee @ Dec 30 2007, 01:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
whoa?!..you made a girl cry just by looking at her? care to share that tale?


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Anyway, it's the party after a fashion show, and most people are drinking. The VP and I are having a somewhat heated discussion of certain people (neither of us) who were not doing their jobs this issue, and I spun around and started staring at a random girl. She broke into tears.

Turned out she was one of the people who wasn't pulling their weight, and was more than tipsy, but for all concerned, me giving someone the evil eye was enough to make 'em cry.
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Posted 31 December 2007 - 12:39 AM

Wow.

I'm definitely with Legion on the roses. Bringing a bunch of roses to a girl on a first date? BAD idea, unless you really are rich and trying to impress her with it. First of all, it can give the wrong impression, such as that you are rich and/or trying to be impressive with it. Or that you're the needy clingy type that will make such lame extravagance in order to win a girl. Or that you're a big sucker. Next time, try one rose. A small bouquet of wildflowers. Or get really creative and buy a pretty cactus in a small pot; they last much longer with almost no care whatsoever, don't cost anything, and show both thoughtfulness and creativity. Or skip the plant thing all together and try for even more creativity. If she's smart, the roses are probably why she suggested the expensive restaurant - seeing if you were trying to impress her with riches. Good thinking on how to get out of that one, though, but yeah, that $37 meal tab makes me think you took her to Ryan's or something. Next time a girl suggests something that cheap maybe go one step up - but ask it, in case she really does prefer whatever she suggested. Girls are sneaky - they like to find things out by sleuthing as opposed to direct questions. (Maybe because we like guys to think we know less than we really do, so our secret knowledge is power? Hmm... Something to think about...)

Second, you're all like, "Dur, she's so beautiful, if I were hers I'd never yell at her!" And you go on and on about how beautiful she is. But, uh, isn't that not really the point? What if she's so beautiful, but a huge bitch? And you mention MARRIAGE??? You are that smitten that you've already been thinking about marriage, and yet in your whole huge spiel, the only good thing you managed to describe about her was that she's pretty.

Thirdly, she's WAY too trusting. That right there - not the fact that she's on anxiety medication - is a HUGE warning sign for me. The fact that she told you her friggin' home address before you ever met her in person was Mega Warning Numero Uno. Especially since you've only been talking to her for a couple weeks at most. She must be the world's biggest idiot, or she wants to use your skin to make some sweaters. (Then she tells you not even her friends know where she lives? But yet she told you? This makes me lean towards that latter option.) Also, she told you that she takes anxiety medication. Anyone with true anxiety would not tell someone they're just meeting something as personal and potentially deal-breaking as that unless they are again the world's biggest idiot, or making it up. (I'm again leaning towards the latter option, unless she takes them but doesn't actually need them - most people that actually have anxiety disorders or chemical imbalances/depression or what have you would not divulge that kind of information except to very close friends.)

And like Civ said, the whole bitching about past pains and shit? Yuck, what a bitch. Confide that shit in your girl friend, your S/O of 3 months or more, your mom, your shrink, your dog - not your fucking first date. That you met online. Sheesh. She's a pity whore, or a compliment whore. You don't reel out the sob stories like that unless you're digging for something.

So all in all, no offense, but I think you've been kinda not-so-smart on this one, and that she's bad news. Maybe she was just having an off day due to being sick though, so do your second date thing, see if she's okay... But for crying out loud, try to learn more about her than her stinking ex-boyfriends and other sob stories. Her hobbies, her family, her religion, whatever. Also pay attention to whether she wants to know anything about you, or if she's more interested in talking about herself. And watch out for signs that she may just be waiting for the right moment to skin you. (Honestly! Home address when never met! Appalling.)

And that's my thoughts on the matter. I normally wouldn't have typed out so much but this screamed for a girl's attention.
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Posted 31 December 2007 - 02:48 PM

QUOTE (civilian_number_two @ Dec 30 2007, 02:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
All right, sucker for a punishing second date, some questions:

What does she like to do in her spare time? What does she do for a living? Does she have any problems at work, or a funny story to tell about it? What are her family like? Does she have a favorite movie? What was the last place she traveled to? Etc. You get my meaning, right? You spent three hours with her, so what did you learn? I ask because the report so far sounds like you heard lots about her ex (still hung up on the ex), and she was whiny and a pain in the ass for the rest (expensive tastes, none of the socially-expected "you shouldn't have" to the flowers, meds and puking, yuck).

You mention that maybe the medication thing was faked; I hadn't even considered that. If you think that's possible then don't just run, run screaming. A gal who would lie about having to take anxiety medication just to cut a date short is the sort who could do anything. My initial advice about avoiding a woman on medication is just that. Of course, lots of people take pills for problems they have, but generally it takes a while for you to learn all that about someone. Getting to know that as well as all the ex info screams of attention-seeker. I quote Fight Club: Strangers with this kind of honesty make me go a big rubbery one.

Then again, if you don't get a lot of dating opportunities, and you really want to have sex with this woman, go for it. Just be careful to mix your own drinks and hide the knives before bed. And avoid any "fun" games that begin with her tying you up.

PS: $37 for steak for two? Where did you end up taking her, Denny's? I'm meeting her halfway on the puking here; sounds like a case of e-coli.

in her spare time, she doesnt have much of that since she works full time and also goes to school. but so far i learned that she does enjoy tennis, dancing, socializing. she told me she hates shopping, and said she basically has sufficient clothes to last her for a while, (now i didnt get to personally inspect her wardrobe, but she did tell me that every year for christmas, her brother gets her either a pair of shoes or a jacket..so go figure)

i took her to a western rustic motif steakhouse called "traildust". it had very nice ambience inside, a sort of rustic touch, and leaned towards being family oriented. (she chose the restaurant). i had mesquite grilled steak ($11.99), she had rib eye ($15.99), altogther, with drinks and side salads, etc, came to $37.??. so not too bad, and the portions were rather generous, and the food was great.

i dont get the impression that she is psycho like many posters are implying. i do however get the impression that she is troubled in her life. in fact, she seemed to always be bringing up some issue or another that was stressing her out. i told her that she needs an excursion of some sort. she looks like she needs a vacation, not a therapist.

even if its true, a lot of people take medication, and im not going to bail out on her if she really does. she because i believe strongly in the marital vow of "in sickness and in health", and likewise, i would never bail out on my spouse of she was perfectly healthly and someday found herself being under medication. thats not cool, and the way i see it, the fact im supporting her now, even with her medication, should convey to her that i love her unconditionally.

what does she do for a living? she works in an optometry office. she herself is working on her optometry degree, and she told me she will have her masters this may 2008.

she is very much family oriented, in fact, she says every sunday her parents visit her along with her siblings and its their "family day". after the date on friday night, she and her family spent the whole weekend together.

favorite films? she says she doesnt have much of a film collection since her ex jerkhead took pretty much all the good crap from the apartment. as far as genres she says she likes pretty much everything, but she isnt much into sci-fi (me and her will someday have a long talk about star wars lol)

i actually learned a lot more about her than what it seems like, but the rest of what i learned about her is just commonplace chat, the usual. i simply was pointing out some of the irregularities.

ill admit that knowing kim was hellacious, but thi is much different. she seems very hurt by past relationships..in fact, i told her that she has this sort of rough edge that is noticeable,.,i sort of hardening on her that is defensive in nature due to the pains she had to endure. if i can say one thing about thi, its that she has never really encountered a true good man. i feel that if i can be the one who can enlighten her, and show her real love, then ive won her heart forever, and thats my goal.

i look forward to this friday, and so does she.

"freedom is the right of all sentient beings"
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