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People who are waiting for marriage to have sex.

#196 User is offline   Amber-Nicole Icon

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Post icon  Posted 09 January 2006 - 07:56 PM

I'm jumping in late on the topic, having been gone and all. I think sex is great. It has numerous health benefits, and the health risks can EASILY be avoided by practicing common sense, not fucking hobos, and just doing oral when reliable methods of birth control are not available.

My boyfriend and I recently split up, but, while we were together, we had a wonderful and loving relationship which sex happened to be a big part of. For my last birthday, he bought me a kama sutra book. wub.gif But I personally don't have religion or anything holding me back, and I loved the guy, so I saw no valid reason not to. Sex is as much emotional for me as it is physical.

I can also do the "casual sex" thing. I haven't often done it with guys, because I hang out with dorky guys who would totally get attached and fall in love....but I've had a few female friends that were just friends, that I would often sleep with. That kind of sex has a different feel to it though...it's just having a good time with a girl friend; relieving some stress. I suppose the best way to explain it for me, is that sex goes into two categories. It's sort of like, you can go to the movies with a friend and just be hanging out as friends...or you can go to the movies with a lover, and you're all romantic about it. Sex can be divided in a similiar way for me. I will not sleep with random strangers...I only fool around with people that I love, on some level. But I can have sex with a friend, and love them, as friends, whereas I can have sex with a lover, and be IN love with them, and it's a completely different experience.

No matter what your views are, sex is great, and I give it a big thumbs up! It's good excersise, the chemicals released in your body during an orgasm act as a natural pain killer, as well as a nasal decongestant (for those of you prone to allergies or colds) and good fun is had by all! Sex is the most beautiful, passionate form of art, and nearly anyone can excel at it if they so desire. biggrin.gif
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Posted 09 January 2006 - 08:04 PM

I second that motion on the nasal decongestant bits, and the emotional stuff too, but I can't separate the love out of sex and just fool around with someone I'm not in love with. My stance is "My intimate parts are reserved for one woman, and one woman alone, and nobody else is getting near them!" when the situation arises. And were I not close enough to be in love, it would be too awkward, anyway.

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Posted 10 January 2006 - 02:52 PM

Sex is not an art. It's for fucking one another till your body fires off liquid's and heat and sweat. Then you get tired and eventually stop.

And afterwards, if you're not in love with the person, you get to feel all akward and slimey for sharing body fluid with a stranger.

You're in the mood one minute and then the next you're not. Even if you're in-love with the girl, you still don't love her as much as you did prior to blowing your load.

It's a overhyped. Love making, rofl, it's fucking.

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Posted 10 January 2006 - 03:14 PM

You wouldn't happen to have any tapes of these times you "relived" yourself with your girl friends by any chance?
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Post icon  Posted 10 January 2006 - 06:09 PM

Well, I was about to make a personal attack on Jordan, which would have been humorous, but I believe there's a rule about that somewhere...

Anyway, I am sorry that that's what sex is to you, and perhaps you're just umm...doing it wrong, or something... wink.gif

And no, Lecter. Girlfriends and I have used it to take advantage of guys before, though. I'm amazed at how fascinating men find it. A male friend once offered to buy us dinner if we made out and let him watch. rolleyes.gif
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Posted 10 January 2006 - 08:02 PM

Hey, I'm just calling it for what it is!

Granted, I've never been in love. I've dated enough, but don't think I fell in love.

I can't imagine some one saying "I'm so in love with you, let's have sex." But rather "I'm really horney, we are in love and dating, so let's not deny ourselves of our rights, let's hump till the cows come home, and not because I'm so in love with you, but because I'm really wanting to get laid"

I think sex is separate from love but they compliment on another, but not in a way that makes the actual act of sex any better. Love makes sex more legit, that's about it. You don't need to feel guilty and worry about it. It's not like you banged some random. But some one you trust and know well. Even though you could have better sex with some one else. See what I'm saying?

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Posted 10 January 2006 - 10:04 PM

Jordan: No offense, but I think you should wait until you have been in love and have had sex with that person before you make assumptions like that. Granted, since you've made your mind up about it beforehand, it may end up being just like that for you. But for most people, being in love does enhance sex, though I'm not really sure how to explain the whys.
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Posted 11 January 2006 - 08:38 AM

Whatever, when you're 20 years married then come back here and tell me it's all about mad love. That shit burns out quick. I'm sure mature married couples are the number one buyers of porn.

Romance and is the fist thing that dies then good sex then sex drive. Marriage scares me a bit.

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Posted 11 January 2006 - 11:19 AM

Jordan: I think that zeitgeist is hyped up by the media for entertainment purposes and somewhat related to false consensus. People take one another for granted and forget that they're in a relationship that needs to be maintained and it slips. And none of your statements are true, so please don't make statements like that until you've had some experience first. If one is in love, not being horny doesn't diminish anything in the slightest, nor make coitus any more odd and awkward from an objective perspective than it already is.

Spoon: It has to do with the emotional intimacy shared, though I can't get into anything about it at the moment.

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Posted 11 January 2006 - 01:57 PM

QUOTE (Slade @ Jan 11 2006, 04:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Everybody: This is not a porn thread, so lets keep our hands above the keyboard, ok? tongue.gif

I'll have you know I have a wireless keyboard, thus I can just put my keyboard on the floor... and I'll just stop here...
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Posted 11 January 2006 - 03:12 PM

Jordan: You're on. The day of my 20th wedding anniversary, I'll get back to you on what I've discovered.

I don't think it's very fair for you to make these close-minded assumptions when you said yourself you have no experience in this area.
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Post icon  Posted 11 January 2006 - 05:09 PM

Jordan, sex when you are in love feels ENTIRELY different. It's inexplicable until you have experienced it, but there is an emotional connection that intensifies every point of contact.

And as far as getting bored with eachother is concerned...well, boring people make for boring sex. If both parties are creative, boredom is highly improbable. Each time you fool around, and the more you build on your emotional relationship, the more you will trust eachother and be willing to try your craziest ideas. If you and your partner are in love, and have a boring sex life, you have only yourselves to blame...
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Posted 11 January 2006 - 07:12 PM

Yikes, coming from teenagers! I'd assume your number one theme song would be "what is love?" by haddaway ROFL.

But seriously, I plan on falling in love when I'm about 30. So till then, I'm just going to assume what I've assumed to be a proper assumption.

Sex gets boring with the same person over and over again. Once you're used to one another, it gets old. That's why you have kids, to keep you occupied with something. I just can't imagine how sleeping with the same person for the next 30 years or so would still be fun. I think it would be come clockwork after a while. And who wants to get all kinky with their wife after 20 years of plain-jane sex? Oh man that would be akward.

Making love to your wife of 30 years would shadow in comparison to having sex with a 21 year old. You'd feel guity afterwards, perhaps, but while you're doing 'it' and are in the mood, you'd be enjoying it a ton more.

LIke seriously, Eddie Murphy said it best. "do you want your girl to say "lets make love?" or "I wanna f**k tha s**t out of you!"' How can you not see what i'm getting at? Maybe I'm having trouble communicating right now.

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Post icon  Posted 11 January 2006 - 07:35 PM

Um. Definately the "let's make love."

And the whole teenager thing? Age is a state of mind. Just look at the difference between you and I, my dear. tongue.gif
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Posted 11 January 2006 - 07:41 PM

QUOTE (Jordan @ Jan 11 2006, 08:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Making love to your wife of 30 years would shadow in comparison to having sex with a 21 year old. You'd feel guity afterwards, perhaps, but while you're doing 'it' and are in the mood, you'd be enjoying it a ton more.

I'd assume that if you've been married for thirty years sex wouldn't really be as important as it used to be.. rolleyes.gif

Also, my parents have been married for twenty-eight years. I don't think the sex is what's kept them together.




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