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Being yourself somehow thats become taboo!

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Posted 01 November 2004 - 07:06 AM

Society sees people who try to be themselves as outsiders, atleast wher i come from. Apparently if your not into fashion and all that hoo-haa ur a freak! Personally i think its screwed up that very few people nowadays are themselves, most people are a clone of there idols, whether they admit it or not, and the idols dont have to be people as such, they could even be fashion itself. I'm an outcast cos i think individulism is the best property a person can have, and therefore i become unpopular, whats up with that? well i am proud of being myself and the world will be a happier place if other people where themselves and not clones of each other!
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Posted 01 November 2004 - 08:39 AM

Agreed. Society is conditioned by the powers that be to think what they're told, so that the powers can maintain their stranglehold on the populace from their luxury mansions and such.
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Posted 01 November 2004 - 09:14 AM

What about the idol of non-comformity?
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Posted 01 November 2004 - 01:27 PM

Stores like Hot Topic peddle their own unique vision of uniqueness.

I'm not a fan.
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Posted 01 November 2004 - 03:29 PM

Its not about the £100 designer jeans that don't leave room for your balls, its the £15 baggies from a dodgy market stand. Go unique!

...he said, wearing his Vans trainers and looking like Mick Jagger...
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Posted 01 November 2004 - 07:16 PM

I just can't get into this hip hugger jeans trend. I prefer the looser straight legged kind. I wear baggy sweaters, plaids, and over sized t-shirts when most of the girls these days sport the form-fitting wear like halter tops and the aforementioned hip huggers/low riders. I'm almost 30 now and I dress pretty much the same way I did when I was 15 or 16. I might not look very attractive, but at least I'm comfortable.

My views on sex and drugs are a lot more conservative than a lot of folks my age, although in other ways I consider myself to be very open-minded. The wild rock and roll music I play and listen to (psychedelic, experimental, punk, indie,etc.) totally clashes with my personality.

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Posted 01 November 2004 - 09:11 PM

I think individualism is a lot more accepted than you seem to percieve it as being, particularly if you live in the US, Canada, Britain, or any other individualistic culture. How many TV shows did you see as a kid with the moral "Be yourself, don't give in to peer pressure, find your own way in life"? People are actually encouraged to stand out from the crowd here.

Of course, if you're violating major social norms and making people uncomfortable, then that's not going to go over too well. And there are situations (e.g. at work) where you conform because there are more important things than showing your individuality (like getting paid). And advertisers try to get people to dress alike, of course, but that's because they want everyone to buy their product. It's not the same thing as being pressured by Society As A Whole.

Side note: There's nothing that makes your fashion choices inherently better than anyone else's. Shopping at thrift stores may make more financial sense than following fashion magazine trends, but I don't care what side of the debate you're on; it's not cool to discriminate against others for buying the clothes they like.
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Posted 02 November 2004 - 05:56 AM

QUOTE (Laura @ Nov 1 2004, 09:11 PM)
I think individualism is a lot more accepted than you seem to percieve it as being, particularly if you live in the US, Canada, Britain, or any other individualistic culture. How many TV shows did you see as a kid with the moral "Be yourself, don't give in to peer pressure, find your own way in life"? People are actually encouraged to stand out from the crowd here.

obviosly youve never lived in gozo!
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Posted 02 November 2004 - 10:31 AM

I had no idea where you lived from your post.

When people may sweeping statements about "society," can they please specify what society they're talking about?
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Posted 02 November 2004 - 01:06 PM

I'm generally talking about dockworkers. On pier 72. At like 4 AM.
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Posted 02 November 2004 - 10:44 PM

But not 4:01pm, because thats a completely different circumstance.
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Posted 03 November 2004 - 06:13 AM

i didnt say what society i meanth cos i did mean society in general, and being that i lived all my life here, its the only society i know!
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Posted 03 November 2004 - 09:17 AM

Now you have started a very interesting topic on fashion (well, not quite on fashion, but close) and how everybody follows it. It was only last year that I noticed that the fashion has changed dramatically since I was a teenager and it is BELL BOTTOMS that everyone wears these days (am I not trendy and hippy?).

You see, I vowed I will never, ever wear those.
I remember when I was like 8 years old my parents moved to a bigger city from a small, provincial town. Naturally, the fashions in that small town were quite behind the main trend, and BB were just five minutes ago in the new place. How I was laughed at when I ventured out to play wearing my velvet BB! I think I will never get over the trauma.

So I am saving all my beloved narrow-legged high-waisted jeans which make me look like an eighty’s throwback among my mates at the college. I am sure the fashion will come back.
Right now I bought a pair of cheap straight-legged ones and this is as “wide” as I can go.

It really matters which society you live. I know that my colleagues at the college look down on me because I do not “dress” (at least those under thirty), but I am old enough not to give a damn. That is why I miss my days in London, where I was assured that I could run to the corner shop wearing a sack and nobody would look twice at me.
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Posted 03 November 2004 - 11:14 AM

fashion...? Guwah...? I wear what I want. Sometimes it's jeans and a T-shirt, sometimes there's a hawaiian button shirt thrown overtop and left open. Wear whatever the hell you want, just don't do it to seek recognition from others. I wear Vans not to identify with skateboarders, but because I like how they look and they are comfortable as hell, and fairly cheap at JC Pennys.
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Posted 04 November 2004 - 05:27 AM

QUOTE (Slade @ Nov 3 2004, 11:14 AM)
fashion...? Guwah...? I wear what I want. Sometimes it's jeans and a T-shirt, sometimes there's a hawaiian button shirt thrown overtop and left open. Wear whatever the hell you want, just don't do it to seek recognition from others. I wear Vans not to identify with skateboarders, but because I like how they look and they are comfortable as hell, and fairly cheap at JC Pennys.

Now THAT is what im talking about, there should be more people like you slade!
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